We can go to a sanctuary within

Constantly thinking about trying to control our partner can create an invisible shield that stands between us, stifling our intimacy. The problem is that in our preoccupation we lose contact with our own inner stillness.We sacrafice our needs in order to control our mate. When we think we can control anyone but ourselves we live in delusion. Our best intentions with control lead only to more stress. When we have made peace within ourselves, we can go to a sanctuary within. Whenever relations with others are in turmoil, we can retreat to that place and be calm, knowing that we can only control ourselves. Then, with each other, we stand on a solid foundation of inner stillness. Hazeldon